What are the Best Ways to Stop
Nothing is more devastating to a family than divorce and many people are searching for the best ways to stop
divorce before it is too late. When you invest time, energy and emotion in a relationship it is sad to watch it
begin to fall apart, the good news is there are a few things you can do to stop a divorce in its tracks.
Many times, you will find yourself at loggerheads with your spouse over seemingly meaningless things, such as
who should do the dishes, walk the dog or mow the lawn. Before you know it a simple conversation has escalated to
all out, war and you honestly do not know how it happened.
It could be that one of you was not listening. Often times couples will think they are talking things out when they
are really only trying to prove their own point. You have to listen and be willing to be wrong. The next time your
spouse is truly upset about something ask gently why it is so important. You must be sincere in the asking which
means you must listen to the answers and be ready to see things from their point of view. This is one of the number
one best ways to stop divorce.
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Let Your Anger
What do you do when your spouse ticks you off? Are you ready and waiting with a scathing come back? It may be
time to go away and let your anger cool before continuing the conversation. Words are worse than blows many times,
(blows are never acceptable!), because though a bruise will heal, things spoken in the heat of the moment can cut
deep and never truly heal. Be mindful of your words at all times and when you feel a cutting remark coming on you
need to recognize that this is a good place for a self imposed time out.
When you are looking for ways to stop divorce, the first thing you should look at is how you fight. Do spiteful
curse words leave your lips? Cussing each other out or saying demeaning things is completely out of the question.
You can say you make me feel, (fill in the blank), but you should never say, "you are an expletive". You are not
truly trying to fix anything through battles such as this; your goal is to maim the other person emotionally.
There are many areas of your life that could benefit from list making, budgets, chores, schedules and much more
but did you know a list could save your marriage? Take the time to write down everything about your spouse that you
fell in love with, be precise and be specific. Next, list all the great things about your spouse now. Finally list
all the bad qualities or things that irritate you and compare the three lists, if the first two far outweigh the
last you will find a resolve inside to make the marriage work and stop any talk of divorce.
Some issues in life take sheer grit and determination to deal with and marriage can be one of them. At some
point in this process, you have to decide you are going to fight for your marriage and not with your spouse. Does
this mean you should become a door mat? Heavens no! It does mean however that you are going to have to dig in your
heals and work to keep it together.
Look back to the things you did with and for your spouse when you were dating. Did you hold the door for her? Did
you cook his favorite meal? Go back to what worked, prove to them you still love and cherish them. When you do
this, you will find the peace you need to and many more ways to stop divorce.
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